Marriage: Arranged or Love

Arranged, or love marriage. hmmm

I see that everyone has their own opinion when it comes to arranged and love marriages, and maybe thats the way it is. We look at things from different angles, and our way of thinking differs.

I guess most of those getting married get a chance to decide whether they wanna marry that girl/guy or not. They get a chance to judge their future partner before accepting him/her, but again what would u really look for when you have to decide upon one meeting? Would you ask a few questions, and base your opinion upon the answers, or would u just go for the looks. Most likely the looks. But in a love marriage, you get to know the person a bit better before u decide to marry. But again, they say love is blind, so can u be sure that this is really what you were looking for in a person?

I know several people who are living together after love marriages, and also some arranged marriages. And I would agree with those who wrote that its all about fate. But again, I cant say that it was their bad fate that their marriages arent like a dance on roses. It is easy to blame someone when things dont go the way we wanted them to, but people dont really seem to understand that they might have done something which led to the misunderstandings, being a love or arranged marriage.

I guess 95% of us writing a this forum are not living in our home country, we are all abroad, and in this case the arranged and love marriages get a different definition. A lot of our arranged marriages, dont only include that your parents pick someone for u, it also means that they pick someone in your home country. As they say, that person knows the culture and what not better than you do. But I dont really understand, how that might help you out. There are two different cultures, two different ways of thinking and accepting things, and they might have nothing in common. So unless one of these persons is ready to let go of his/her way of thinking, and adapt the others "culture", I dont see how it can succeed.

Again, I would say that the arranged marriages are not what they look like. I know a guy who got dumped by hundreds of girls, and then he goes to Pakistan, and comes back with a beautiful girl he just married. Now that makes me wonder, dumped here, married there. Did she really marry the guy? or the passport. Did the parents really see a nice guy with good future, or that their girl would have a great life abroad....... think about it.... You are discussing a part of this subject which might not even be relevant to u!!!